So I decided just before to go out and see how 'wet" the backyard is and well it's a swamp. Water everywhere with grass just hiding it and it's still pissing down. I have an old 10L bowl in which I keep my pegs in and it's so full the pegs washed out of it.
I may need to sandbag my back varandah(sp?) because it's started filling with water. My feet are cold from being wet all the time.
Now for my other gripe, My mum lives in Country Victoria and every single town around her are on flood alert or have flood. So far her town is safe but since it's built right on a creek I am guessing it won't stay that way for long. Plus she works 45 minutes from home and may get flooded in there and would have to be helicoptered home LOL.
I couldn't find raincoats and gumboots for the kids at the local shops and I HATE driving in the rain so I have to wait for hubby to wake up (nightshift) to drive me elsewhere to go looking for them elsewhere. OMG who would have thought that at the start of Autumn they would be sold OUT of gumboots and raincoats.
I am hoping that the rain stops before Monday as it's youngest girlchild's 6th birthday OMG where did the time go and I want her to have a nice sunny day for her birthday. Also a big up your ass for McDonald's for almost ruining her Birthday party by not sending me a conformation email saying that it was all booked. And leaving it for me to chase you UP TWICE about only for them to tell me Oh yeah it's book we just didn't send you the email. WTF? You just decided NOT to send me the email I need and stressed me out for NO reason you bunch of IDIOTS.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
One stuffed up summer
Where the hell is summer?
A few hot days doesn't equal summer it really doesn't. This summer has been rather wet and dreary. Today we are on day 3 of nothing but rain with more rain predicted. Place near us are on flood and evacuation alert. Maybe it's just where I am living but it seems like summer is a thing of the past, you know those hot days where all you want to do is stay in a pool of cold cold water because you know it's the only way you are going to stay cool.
I want the summer of old to come back either that or I am going to have to start nagging hubby to move again(not that we actually move I just nag we are stuck here because of his job). I think this is why I love visiting my mum in summer the days are hot and the night are mild(unless it gets over 40 degrees Celsius-104 F) then at 4am in the morning it's still stinking hot and you can't sleep.
Who would think that you would have to buy umbrella's in summer just so you can walk your kids to school. It's stupid. Summers are for hot days and long nights, cool drinks, not hot tea/coffee. Singlet tops, not jumpers, Shorts not tracksuit pants. Bathers not umbrella's.
Give me back my summers.
A few hot days doesn't equal summer it really doesn't. This summer has been rather wet and dreary. Today we are on day 3 of nothing but rain with more rain predicted. Place near us are on flood and evacuation alert. Maybe it's just where I am living but it seems like summer is a thing of the past, you know those hot days where all you want to do is stay in a pool of cold cold water because you know it's the only way you are going to stay cool.
I want the summer of old to come back either that or I am going to have to start nagging hubby to move again(not that we actually move I just nag we are stuck here because of his job). I think this is why I love visiting my mum in summer the days are hot and the night are mild(unless it gets over 40 degrees Celsius-104 F) then at 4am in the morning it's still stinking hot and you can't sleep.
Who would think that you would have to buy umbrella's in summer just so you can walk your kids to school. It's stupid. Summers are for hot days and long nights, cool drinks, not hot tea/coffee. Singlet tops, not jumpers, Shorts not tracksuit pants. Bathers not umbrella's.
Give me back my summers.
My Tuesdays just got busy.
So I decided the girlchildren needed to do something sporty( we are still deciding what to do with boychild) and enrolled them in Cheerleading(competition Cheering only) and it's on Tuesdays. The girlchildren love it. It's sporty they are learning stunts they are learning stretching they are dancing. It's great and cheap $190 for the full uniform plus $65 for younger girlchild per term and $70 for older girlchild(compared to ballet which would have costed me upwards of $200 per term plus uniform) then the comp fee's (which are cheap $23). But this means that my Tuesdays are going to be busy and I need to be organised(ROFL) anyone who knows me knows this is a huge joke. ME organised HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. On the day that DH may be rostered off it will be fine he can cook for that night but the days he is either doing Night shift or day shift or now midshift(stupid new roster) I have to be totally organised or the kids will be eating at midnight.
I have to thank the cooking gods for slow cookers I think this just may be my saving grace. Stew, Casseroles will be on the menu those nights which means I started it up in the morning and it will be cooked by the time we get home at 6:30pm.
Now if I could just think of something sporty but indoors for Boychild that runs on Tuesdays and not any other days I can keep the busy to just one day LOL.
Monday, February 27, 2012
They still don't get it.
Ok so you have more than likely already read my rant from earlier today about the failing of the Labor Party. It's seems that they still aren't getting it.
http://www.alp.org.au/blogs/alp-blog/february-2012/the-challenge-for-labor/
We know what you have achieved since 2007 Under Rudd and what you have achieved since under Gillard what you aren't getting is that WE DON'T WANT GILLARD really is it that hard to understand?
26% approval rating should be speaking volumes to you since you rolled Rudd who had 52% her approval rating is 26 POINTS lower than Rudd ever was. You still aren't getting that the Australian public doesn't approve of Gillard. We don't approve of her because she rolled a popular Prime Minister. We don't like the fact that she is still yet to explain the REAL reason she rolled our loved PM. You phoney assed excuses of he was unpopular fail to fly considering the current polls and that he was leading a paralysed Government doesn't fly either. His job is to see things done not make you happy. If you want to be happy with your boss build your own Business which means YOU are the boss.
The whinging from those who worked for Rudd saying they were asked to work through the night had me heading for my violin and crying those poor sods a river............................ NOT. Give me a break working for the Prime Minister of Australia isn't a 9 to 5 job. Oh no he didn't thank you for the work you did :O. Oh wait yes he did he paid you and paid you well for it. Complaining when you are pulling in more than $150k pa is PATHETIC.
Oh no you had to travel with him :O get over it you were paid for it and GOT TO SEE THE WORLD on the tax payers dime. What's the issue?
So Labor party get it though your heads WE WANT RUDD.
http://www.alp.org.au/blogs/alp-blog/february-2012/the-challenge-for-labor/
We know what you have achieved since 2007 Under Rudd and what you have achieved since under Gillard what you aren't getting is that WE DON'T WANT GILLARD really is it that hard to understand?
26% approval rating should be speaking volumes to you since you rolled Rudd who had 52% her approval rating is 26 POINTS lower than Rudd ever was. You still aren't getting that the Australian public doesn't approve of Gillard. We don't approve of her because she rolled a popular Prime Minister. We don't like the fact that she is still yet to explain the REAL reason she rolled our loved PM. You phoney assed excuses of he was unpopular fail to fly considering the current polls and that he was leading a paralysed Government doesn't fly either. His job is to see things done not make you happy. If you want to be happy with your boss build your own Business which means YOU are the boss.
The whinging from those who worked for Rudd saying they were asked to work through the night had me heading for my violin and crying those poor sods a river............................ NOT. Give me a break working for the Prime Minister of Australia isn't a 9 to 5 job. Oh no he didn't thank you for the work you did :O. Oh wait yes he did he paid you and paid you well for it. Complaining when you are pulling in more than $150k pa is PATHETIC.
Oh no you had to travel with him :O get over it you were paid for it and GOT TO SEE THE WORLD on the tax payers dime. What's the issue?
So Labor party get it though your heads WE WANT RUDD.
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Political Disappointment.
So today was the leadership challenge in Australian Politics. Where the former PM took on the Current PM and lost. It is with a heavy heart that I say that he lost. The Australian Voting public wanted the former PM to get back up. We wanted him to have another shot at the job he was rolled from.
When Kevin Rudd was rolled as Prime Minister of Australia he had an approval rating of 52% and look to gain 18 seats at the next election. But to the Labor party this wasn't good enough and rolled him putting in the deputy PM in his place. They were banking on her winning the vote because she was and would be the first female Prime Minister. What they failed to recognise was the voting public's hatred of the woman who took the top job against the wishes of the Australian Public. According to the Labor Caucus 52% approval rating wasn't good enough for them.
So what is their excuse for not rolling Julia Gillard who currently holds an approval rating of 26% of the voting public. This is one of the lowest approval ratings of a PM in the history of Australian Politics. This will account for a loss of 30 seats at the next election. Labor has a long long way to go to gather the support of the voting public. And they have today proved that they just don't care what the public wants. There was an overwhelming public support for Kevin Rudd, yet they put back in Julia Gillard.
On the thought that Kevin Rudd was going to be Prime Minister as a party they gained 3 points. For the 2 party preferred they gained 2 points(2nd party is the Liberal/National/Democratic party coalition) Yet in this same time Julia Gillard LOST 6 points. She went from 32% approval to 26% approval. We don't like her. We have never forgiven her for Rolling the PM we voted in with a major Majority. She didn't learn her lesson at the last election where the Australian Public forced a hung Government and she now leads a minority Government.
This is a sad day in Australian politics as the politicians have proven that they just don't care what their electorates want.
When Kevin Rudd was rolled as Prime Minister of Australia he had an approval rating of 52% and look to gain 18 seats at the next election. But to the Labor party this wasn't good enough and rolled him putting in the deputy PM in his place. They were banking on her winning the vote because she was and would be the first female Prime Minister. What they failed to recognise was the voting public's hatred of the woman who took the top job against the wishes of the Australian Public. According to the Labor Caucus 52% approval rating wasn't good enough for them.
So what is their excuse for not rolling Julia Gillard who currently holds an approval rating of 26% of the voting public. This is one of the lowest approval ratings of a PM in the history of Australian Politics. This will account for a loss of 30 seats at the next election. Labor has a long long way to go to gather the support of the voting public. And they have today proved that they just don't care what the public wants. There was an overwhelming public support for Kevin Rudd, yet they put back in Julia Gillard.
On the thought that Kevin Rudd was going to be Prime Minister as a party they gained 3 points. For the 2 party preferred they gained 2 points(2nd party is the Liberal/National/Democratic party coalition) Yet in this same time Julia Gillard LOST 6 points. She went from 32% approval to 26% approval. We don't like her. We have never forgiven her for Rolling the PM we voted in with a major Majority. She didn't learn her lesson at the last election where the Australian Public forced a hung Government and she now leads a minority Government.
This is a sad day in Australian politics as the politicians have proven that they just don't care what their electorates want.
Friday, February 24, 2012
More political stuff
I was shown a blog by my friend crissy over at Phenomenal Woman http://bloggitymoo.blogspot.com.au/2012/02/calling-all-kevin-rudd-supporters.html
It was a well written blog about Kevin Rudd achievements so I am going to share it with you
http://www.aeonity.com/salvotim
This guy remind's us of why we voted for Kevin in the first place and why we should be demanding that the Labor caucus put him back where he belongs in the top job.
They can bleat how the Australian public voted for Gillard in the last election all they like the fact is that we didn't we didn't vote for either of the 2 big parties to have majority Governments. We sent them a message that we were sick and tired of the dog and pony shows we were sick of the lies and misinformation. We forced a Minority government No one party was elected by the people.
This is a message Neither party picked up on. Abbott still sooks about how it should have been him. And Labor thinks that they won. Both are crappy parties with no real leadership. All Abbott can offer us is a missing $72 billion in his budget and a whole lot of NO's.
With the Labor party we have a Prime Minister who is hugely unpopular gives us good policies but fails to sell them well. We the Australian public are crying out well more like screaming out for a leader we can trust and look up to and one person seems to have that and it's Kevin Rudd yet he is widely unpopular with in his own party. Stories are coming out about how he didn't thank his workers and had a huge staff turn over. WTF he didn't thank his workers? I don't get thanks in my job, Hubby doesn't get thanks in his job he is there to work not to get thanks. Suck it up people your boss doesn't need to kiss your ass he is your BOSS.
Hopefully the Caucus realises that the Australian public want Kevin Rudd back and pick him but so far they are just whining about how they won't work with him. Well there are plenty of backbenches who now sense a promotion coming on. If you all leave this gives them a chance.
It was a well written blog about Kevin Rudd achievements so I am going to share it with you
http://www.aeonity.com/salvotim
This guy remind's us of why we voted for Kevin in the first place and why we should be demanding that the Labor caucus put him back where he belongs in the top job.
They can bleat how the Australian public voted for Gillard in the last election all they like the fact is that we didn't we didn't vote for either of the 2 big parties to have majority Governments. We sent them a message that we were sick and tired of the dog and pony shows we were sick of the lies and misinformation. We forced a Minority government No one party was elected by the people.
This is a message Neither party picked up on. Abbott still sooks about how it should have been him. And Labor thinks that they won. Both are crappy parties with no real leadership. All Abbott can offer us is a missing $72 billion in his budget and a whole lot of NO's.
With the Labor party we have a Prime Minister who is hugely unpopular gives us good policies but fails to sell them well. We the Australian public are crying out well more like screaming out for a leader we can trust and look up to and one person seems to have that and it's Kevin Rudd yet he is widely unpopular with in his own party. Stories are coming out about how he didn't thank his workers and had a huge staff turn over. WTF he didn't thank his workers? I don't get thanks in my job, Hubby doesn't get thanks in his job he is there to work not to get thanks. Suck it up people your boss doesn't need to kiss your ass he is your BOSS.
Hopefully the Caucus realises that the Australian public want Kevin Rudd back and pick him but so far they are just whining about how they won't work with him. Well there are plenty of backbenches who now sense a promotion coming on. If you all leave this gives them a chance.
Interesting Political Times.
What interesting times we are living in, first the PM gets rolled by his own party then the Federal Government is forced into a minority Government and now the PM is being challenged by the very person she rolled.
I LOVE POLITICS.
This is great I get to argue with people about why and who should be running this country and I love a good argument.
But Please remember that if you are in support of Kevin Rudd taking back the top spot please email or phone your local Labor federal MP and tell them to support Rudd in his bid for the top job. Let Rudd finish what we the people elected him to do.
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
My eventful day.
I seem to have gotten the cleaning bug. Today I looked around my house and saw that it was a bloody mess so I hopped to and started cleaning. Well first I started off preparing tonight's dinner Beef Goulash cooked to perfection in my slow cooker(best invention EVER).
Then I unpacked and repacked the dishwasher, Wiped down the bench washed the dishes that didn't fit into the dishwasher. Then I swept and Vacuumed the floor then steam mopped it. My floors are looking super clean. Tomorrow's jobs will be the bathrooms, lounge and hallways and if I have enough time my room.
I always seem to get more done when husband isn't home, I don't know why that is maybe it's because I so rarely see him I would rather spend alone time with him now that the kids are all in school than clean the house. Or it could just be that I am hoping he will see what needs to be done and pitch in and help. Although this is always wishful thinking because if he sees it he just seems to ignore it.
I remember once when I was totally snowed under with the kids and couldn't ever get on top of the house work(when the kids were younger) Husband told me to give him 2 jobs and they would be his. So I asked him to stack the dishwasher and fold and put away the clothes. My 2 most hated jobs. This arrangement lasted a whole entire week before it was back to falling all on me.
He then told me he would stack the dishwasher if I scraped the plates, rinsed them and stacked them up in a pile next to the dishwasher. LOL If I was doing all of that why don't I just stack them in the dishwasher myself.
To give him props he does do housework when I nag at him, he just seems to suffer from domestic blindness. Unless it's the kids rooms then he see's it.
Oh well with him working one more day this week I should have the house clean before Saturday and we may just spend time together as a family rather than hubby and the kids going out and I am left at home cleaning up after them all.
Then I unpacked and repacked the dishwasher, Wiped down the bench washed the dishes that didn't fit into the dishwasher. Then I swept and Vacuumed the floor then steam mopped it. My floors are looking super clean. Tomorrow's jobs will be the bathrooms, lounge and hallways and if I have enough time my room.
I always seem to get more done when husband isn't home, I don't know why that is maybe it's because I so rarely see him I would rather spend alone time with him now that the kids are all in school than clean the house. Or it could just be that I am hoping he will see what needs to be done and pitch in and help. Although this is always wishful thinking because if he sees it he just seems to ignore it.
I remember once when I was totally snowed under with the kids and couldn't ever get on top of the house work(when the kids were younger) Husband told me to give him 2 jobs and they would be his. So I asked him to stack the dishwasher and fold and put away the clothes. My 2 most hated jobs. This arrangement lasted a whole entire week before it was back to falling all on me.
He then told me he would stack the dishwasher if I scraped the plates, rinsed them and stacked them up in a pile next to the dishwasher. LOL If I was doing all of that why don't I just stack them in the dishwasher myself.
To give him props he does do housework when I nag at him, he just seems to suffer from domestic blindness. Unless it's the kids rooms then he see's it.
Oh well with him working one more day this week I should have the house clean before Saturday and we may just spend time together as a family rather than hubby and the kids going out and I am left at home cleaning up after them all.
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
My Birthday at all that Jazz.
So I have just celebrated my 31st birthday :O. And what a wonderful birthday I had. It started on Saturday night when my sister in law and I went out on the town for a bit of partying and fun while being kid free. Then on Monday(which was my actual birthday) I was spoilt rotten for the first time in ages, I was woken with the kids saying happy birthday to me. While getting them ready for school my sister in law and nieces a nephews come over baring my favourite chocolate and a birthday cake. I then went over to a friends house for breakfast, then Hubby(who had taken the day off work) took me out to lunch.
I cooked dinner but only because I make the better stir fry than Hubby. I was given lots of birthday love from all my friends across the globe on facebook. All in all it was a wonderful birthday. Oh and I am still trying to decide what Hubby should get me for my birthday ideas would be great.
I cooked dinner but only because I make the better stir fry than Hubby. I was given lots of birthday love from all my friends across the globe on facebook. All in all it was a wonderful birthday. Oh and I am still trying to decide what Hubby should get me for my birthday ideas would be great.
Thursday, February 16, 2012
My weight loss journey
So I have started on a weight loss journey I have lost so far 2.2kgs not a lot but it's a start :D. I still have a long way to go. Instead of being stupid and going on a diet I have just changed my eating habits. I am not denying myself anything I am just limiting what I am eating and eating less. I have also started using the Wii. That little toy is a great thing.
Using the Wii I have started exercising 3 times a week for up to an hour. I play just dance and just dance 2, plus I do the biggest loser work outs or use Wii fit. I love my Wii it gets me moving and shaking and since I have banned scales in the house I use the Wii to weigh myself with and I can keep track of the weeks I have success and the weeks I fail(and there will be those weeks). But I am happy to slowly lose my weight and get healthy. 2.2kgs down and 27.8kgs to go.
Using the Wii I have started exercising 3 times a week for up to an hour. I play just dance and just dance 2, plus I do the biggest loser work outs or use Wii fit. I love my Wii it gets me moving and shaking and since I have banned scales in the house I use the Wii to weigh myself with and I can keep track of the weeks I have success and the weeks I fail(and there will be those weeks). But I am happy to slowly lose my weight and get healthy. 2.2kgs down and 27.8kgs to go.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
R.I.P Whitney Houston.
By now you have all heard the news of Whitney Houston's death. Tragically she has passed away at age 48. She is and will always remain one of my favourite singers.
As a tribute to her I have decided to share with you my all time Whitney songs.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JWTaaS7LdU&feature=relmfu
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FxYw0XPEoKE&feature=relmfu
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eH3giaIzONA&feature=relmfu
These are my 3 favourites of her's I actually have the last one on CD in my car so that I can listen to it over and over again while doing long drives(the kids get sick of hearing it).
Another music great gone but not forgotten. My heart goes out to her daughter.
As a tribute to her I have decided to share with you my all time Whitney songs.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JWTaaS7LdU&feature=relmfu
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FxYw0XPEoKE&feature=relmfu
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eH3giaIzONA&feature=relmfu
These are my 3 favourites of her's I actually have the last one on CD in my car so that I can listen to it over and over again while doing long drives(the kids get sick of hearing it).
Another music great gone but not forgotten. My heart goes out to her daughter.
3 down 1 to go.
Urgh the dreaded night shift and it's the weekend. While most couples are snuggling up together I am here alone with the kids who are now all in bed.
I am here writing a blog instead of spending time with my husband.(excuse me this is going to be a woe is me post) I am lonely I am bored and even though I am trying to lose weight I may just start pigging out on the maltesers hiding in my cupboard and ruin my healthy eating plan.
Ok not totally 3 down until tomorrow morning but you get the drift. I am alone on a Saturday night. At least I can look forward to next weekend when I am heading out with a couple of friends to a nightclub to celebrate my Birthday. *cry* I am sick of being alone I want some company.
Thursday, February 9, 2012
YAY the first week of school.
So school has started back YAY. The kids are loving being back at school(my children are weird they love school). Things are getting back into routine, kids in bed earlish but not without fight. Youngest child has taken to fighting with me because to her it's still "morning"(daytime) because the sun is still up(damn daylight savings) but will eventually go to sleep.
We have taken to bribing middle child to go to sleep early and it seems to be working but I think in the end it may just send us broke $5 for every night he is asleep by 8:30pm. The oldest child is the easiest you just tell her it's bedtime and off she goes and is normally asleep within minutes.
So we have started the back to school stuff without a glitch which is great.
Damn Media get it bloody right.
I wish the media would get the stories right or actually tell the whole bloody story. At the moment the Victorian Nurses are in a Conditions Dispute not a bloody Pay Dispute with the Victorian Government. It's not really that hard for the media to comprehend that this is about Conditions that make your healthcare safer, No health assistants(seriously who wants a one year T.A.F.E trained person looking after you compared to a 3 year UNI degree person plus more courses and training?), And to pay for these under trained people to "care" for you they want to sack 1500 Nurses, So the nurses don't want this to happen big surprise there un trained compared to trained. They want to keep their Nurse to patient ratio. This means that you aren't waiting around in pain for your meds or dressing changes while your nurse is dealing with 10 or more other people or worse in Emergency where they want to take it from 1 nurse to 3 patients to 1 nurse to 5 patients who are in EMERGENCY for a reason they are ILL. Who wants to be seriously ill and your nurse is NO WHERE AROUND? Also split shifts so for 2 hours you will have one nurse then for a few hours another nurse then your first nurse then back to another nurse. You want continuity of care for 8 hours not bloody changes.
If this dispute was just about pay it would be over with the Government would have caved by now. But once again they want to shaft the Nurses those who can't fight back because they care to much about people to put your lives at risk. People need to get behind their nurses and back them up and tell the Government that this treatment of their nurses those who care for you when you are to sick to care for yourself is NOT ON.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Motivation
Yesterday I was talking to my friend Crissy from Phenonmenal Woman http://bloggitymoo.blogspot.com.au/ and we were both lacking motivation to do housework. Seriously I hate housework and any excuse not to do it is fine by me but then the house becomes a bomb site and I need to clean it up.
So with some help I discovered a great way to motivate yourself, Using an egg timer you set it to 10/15 minutes then clean for that amount of time then take a break normally about 5 minutes. Then reset the timer and do it all over again trying to do more and more each time and *drum roll please* you have a clean house.
It's even more fun if you have a group of friends to do it with so you can best each other or see who can do more in the 15 minutes.
So timers set. Ready Set GO.
Sunday, February 5, 2012
Some days I hate cooking.
Do you ever have days where you just hate cooking?
I am having one today yet am trying out a new recipe for lamb curry. I am just feeling over it this is odd for me because I normally love cooking. But even now and then I am just over it. I don't want to cook or even see people cooking.
Oh the bright side these days rarely come about but today it just hit me as I was about to start dinner that I would rather be doing something completely different than cooking(relaxing in the bath sounds great).
There are other days when the mood strikes me and I love cooking, baking trying out new stuff, but I think I am at a Meh point today. So much stress lately and not enough hours in the day. Now I am trying to cook a lovely healthy meal that almost everyone is going to say they hate.
I am sick of mealtime fights over who is eating what and who isn't who doesn't like this or that. New rules of the house may have to be eat it or go hungry.
Friday, February 3, 2012
Crazy Neighbours.
Everyone gets one in their lifetime and at the moment we have one. This guy is seriously crazy.
The day we moved in he "dropped" a tool over the fence to check out who we were and since then it's gotten worse. We do nothing to provoke this guy we just try to live our life as quietly as possible. We don't have raging parties every night of the week(lol with kids those days are long over). We now get abused via the front door intercom for walking on the nature strip out the front of his house. He has tried to attack my Husband with an axe handle(this ended in the police being called by us) He has deliberately ridden his push bike into a car parked on our driveway then threatened that he could take our house if he had been hurt(LOL good luck with that we rent). He has called in the parking inspectors because we park husbands car on our nature strip(no footpath on this side of the street and it's not blocking access to anything). He has taken to playing loud music for roughly 12hrs a day from 8am til 8pm EVERY SINGLE DAY. I wonder if he would change that tacit if he knew we enjoyed the music LOL. To now he called the police because a visitor park their car on our nature strip. He told husband "now it's my turn to call the police" LOL like they would care. And he has taken to filming our coming and goings. And what can the police do about this harassment? NOT A DAMN THING. Our only option is to take out a Protected Person's order which is a road we really didn't want to take. This is daily harassment for us from him. We can't leave the house without him coming out to watch us or come home with the same effect. He is scaring the children to the point that he thinks he is going to attack them(they witnessed the attempted attack on husband). Until we have the protection order nothing can be done. We didn't want this we just want to live quietly with our kids safely.
We could move but we like this area and it has a great school close by that the children go to and family is close by as well.
Buying School stuff.
I remember going to school and everything was already there all set up and ready to go. These days you are given a list with the price of the cost of everything at the bottom from one shop(or maybe that only happens here?) For my 3 kids that is a total of over $500 just for stationary. Then there is the buying of new school shoes :O and new uniforms because your kids have outgrown last years ones over the summer holiday.
So Today was the dreaded day that I went out to do all of this, left the house and 9:30am and didn't get back in until 4pm all of this spent shopping with husband and 3 kids in tow. What a nightmare. Kids want everything under the sun Husband wants me to hurry the hell up he just doesn't get it that it takes time. The kids need to be measured in their feet because they are just growing growing growing, Child 1 at 10 has the same sized foot as I do at 31(at least this means we can borrow each others shoes right?) Child 2 has gone up another shoe size so has child 3. Child 1 is almost as tall as I am as well with child 2 not far behind. There is the crying of I am hungry, I am thirsty and I am bored until I think my head is about to explode. Child 3 doesn't want a pair of shoes with laces, child 2 wants a pair of shoes but not any that are there. Child 1 has expensive taste in shoes(doesn't get it from me). And I still didn't get everything I need so I have to venture back out tomorrow but at least I can do that alone. 4 more days until school goes back, then I think I may just run away to Bora Bora(yes I am joking although it looks lovely)
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Sexual assault.
I read an amazing blog tonight about a young girl helping survivors(I hate the word victim) Through photo's of the words their abusers use.
This is the blog
I think it's important to share this because it needs to be made aware of. It needs to be spoken about those of us who have suffered sexual abuse need to know that it isn't our fault. You did nothing wrong, it's not you it's them. To those who question sexual abuse you need to know that we did nothing wrong we didn't ask for it WE didn't want it. Rape is still one of the hardest cases to try around the world because people find it hard to imagine why we didn't fight, why we didn't scream, it's only sex. Let me tell you rape isn't about sex it's about POWER the power the abuser has over you. Rape isn't something that happens down a dark alley by a stranger. Most rapes are committed by some one you know.
I am a survivor, I was raped by my then boyfriend when I was 16 years old, I wasn't wearing provocative clothing, I was wearing a flannel nightie. I was just there when he came home from work(he was 21) at which he apparently had a bad day. All he said to me was I need this I have had a bad day. While I was telling him no no no. I didn't report my rape, I am not alone many women don't report it many men don't either.
I am also the survivor of sexual assault, at 14 going to stay at my cousin's house after she had stayed at mine. It was arrange by her mother that we would catch a lift back with my Aunt's brother in law who was a truck driver, half way back we stopped for the night so he could sleep. At first he told me I had to sleep in the cab with him I was a little weirded out but he was my cousins uncle and I thought I could trust him, I was wrong I was just starting to fall asleep when I felt his hands on me and him whispering in my ear that "it would be easier if I just rolled over and faced him" I didn't and got out of that cab pretty quick. He then tried the same thing on my cousin. In the end he gave up and slept sitting up while my cousin and I huddled together scared in the cab. We never reported it. These are just two stories of how this happens to people from people you know but there are millions of the same type of stories out there.
I am asking you to please don't be so quick to judge when you hear these cases. We have the right to say no and have it taken seriously. Being passed out from drinking doesn't equal consent, wearing a short skirt doesn't equal consent, tight pants doesn't equal consent. The only thing that equals consent is someone saying to you Yes I want to have sex with you.
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